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Dating with "H"

Dating with "H"

Dating within the "H" community

Many of us don't feel comfortable dating non-H because having "the talk" is very scary, or we were rejected by someone after having the talk, or we just don't want to risk passing the virus to someone else.

There are ways you can meet people online who are already in the "H Club". Please click on the link below to set up a free profile at PositiveSTDSingles.com. It's a great way to remain anonymous while you're looking around to see who's out there.

As always with online dating, you should take precautions to safeguard yourself. Don't give out your contact information like your phone number or street address. If you decide to meet in person, arrange to meet the person in a public place, not at someone's home.

There are other STD dating websites out there, but they have fewer members or they have very restrictive policies in place. There are a lot of great guys and girls out there who have H and are looking for someone special. Good luck with your search!

Dating someone who is "non-H"

Having HPV does not mean you are limited to dating someone else with HPV. H does not define us, it is an incredibly small part of our lives, and in the grand scheme of things, it seriously does not matter. The things that matter in a relationship are compatibility, communication, mutual attraction, outlook on life, goals, plans for the future, etc. Having H does not trump those things.

HPV is transferred through skin-to-skin contact, so it can be transferred during vaginal, anal, oral, or protected sex. Telling someone can be very scary, but not telling them and exposing them to the virus is just wrong. Telling the person that you have HPV before ANY physical intimacy has occurred is absolutely mandatory.

It's very possible that you will find out the person you are dating actually has HPV. A number of people have said they worried about having the talk, then had the talk and discovered the other person had it too!

By taking suppressive medication, using protection, and avoiding physical intimacy immediately before, during, and after outbreaks, you can decrease the likelihood of giving it to a partner. These methods aren't 100% effective, but neither is birth control medication, and despite the risk, a lot of people use birth control!